Tony Robbins Is Onto Something
argh, same frequency. being out of town now for about a week and a half has totally thrown off my routine and therefore my productivity and therefore my feeling that I’m gonna be okay (80% kidding) and my sense of self worth (70% kidding)
Ahhh the internal dialogue of "do I suck, or is it hormones? Am I lazy or burnt out, am I wuss that gets overwhelmed easily or do I have no systems in place?"
I've concluded that having unbreakable trust in yourself is so important especially with writing.
Trusting that when you can do it, you do it. That means that when you're struggling, theres a problem that's bigger than you!
"I always think I love not having a schedule, but a lack of structure in an increasingly busy week has been slowly turning my hair grey."
High five for structuring up!! I've been *excitedly* working on getting back into a routine, and building in more structure these last few weeks. It brings more ease😌
This hit home. I've been trying to "do" more too, and while the non-stop action has some incredible results, I expect way more of myself -- which makes those limiting belief voices louder and louder. This is a great reminder, thank you!
Ooof as always, I feel like we are thinking about very similar things. I have also been a bit down on myself because I feel like I’m not doing enough.
This hit hard for me: “My problem isn’t that I have a crazy back to back schedule. It’s inconsistent but not unpredictable. My issue is that I think I love working purely based on my feelings and my mood, but then get stressed and start to doubt myself when I feel overwhelmed. It’s time to admit I need a system in place.”
I'm keeping an eye on you Michelle, because you're solving problems I plan to face following in the footsteps of your path toward deserved success and growth. Fretting over whether you are a doer seems a little bit of a red herring, as what I see at heart is that you're a connector. You connect ideas, you connect with people, you connect people with people, and I have no doubt you'll connect with the systems and help you need to take the next step forward in your growth. You're helping so many people. Don't hesitate to ask for help if you need it. I suspect there a lot of people who'd be ready to give you a hand when you need it. I'm one of them.
Loved this, Michelle :)
“ Every month this past year, I thought my schedule would get lighter at some point and it never did. Next week I’ll be free, my weekends won’t be filled, I can finally catch up” SO TRUE
One thing I try to ask myself is “each time I say yes, what am I saying no to?” Ie. where is this time coming from?
“I have so many topics I want to dive into but I put them off because each week I don’t feel like I have enough time to focus on them” - man, does this ever hit home.
I can relate to the feeling of a growing backlog and the surprise wondering, "wait, wasn't this going to be the day, weekend, week, season of slow? Where did all of this stuff come from?!" Cal Newport has mentioned a number of times something I forget all the time but is so obvious, the stuff on our plates all come with overhead beyond the obvious time block associated with a thing.
PS. Love Carol Dweck!
Completely relate! As soon as I got back to regular, self-imposed, consistent routine (including the typical meditation, eating healthy and exercising) 2-3 weeks ago, I started feeling more stable and in control. Glad you came to this realization around the same time and put it down into words!
Thanks for this, Michelle! You’re inspiring me to journal out my limiting beliefs. Your positive pragmatism is a gift to read.
I’ve been feeling off my game after pulling my neck and believing I’m “behind”, and overall just feeling off mood wise. You remind me that it’s time to check in with myself.
I’m curious -- do you follow a template, or write down limiting thoughts in free form?
“My limited and fixed mindset went straight to believing I wasn’t managing my workload because I was inherently disorganized. That I was overwhelmed and falling behind because of some fatal laziness character flaw that lives inside of me.” Feel this in my soul!
Hi Michelle! Thanks for sharing this. Mr. Robbins has been around awhile, but his advice still rings true. I’ve had trouble adhering to a schedule as well and as an up and coming teacher, it’s imperative I create one and stick with it. If I don’t get to everything, that’s okay. Now that it’s summer, I have books to read and essays to write on my own blog. All that to say, I’m in the same boat as you, but we’ll paddle our way out of this. You hang in there and thanks again for sharing. Take care you. 🤗