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Jan 12, 2023Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese

Envisioning you sitting in the backseat spilling your guts to a stranger makes me laugh. I can't imagine myself doing that. If a Lyft driver asks me about my night, it's automatically 1 star, lol.

The board of directors is a great idea. About 15 years ago, a much older gentleman asked me who my gatekeepers were. I had no idea what he meant. He had 3 people in his life he called his gatekeepers, and each had the key to a specific area of his life. One for finance, one for work, and one for personal relationships. He said he never made a decision in any area without talking to the gatekeeper of that area first. That conversation has always stuck with me. This piece reminds me of it ☺️

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Jan 12, 2023Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese

This makes me smile ;) Lovely illustration of a personal journey and full of gems and jokes!

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Jan 12, 2023Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese

✨Growth✨ We love to see it.

Also Candace sounds nosey AF😂

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Jan 29, 2023Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese

Hi Michelle! I love this write-up. Board of directors is a great use of words to define your best friends. I think I'll have to use that from time to time. Having served on boards in the past your description rang true. I'll admit, I wasn't exactly close friends with my fellow board members, but we knew what was said in those meetings was completely confidential. I'm very good at keeping secrets, but we all have that one person who you know will keep it under lock and key all the way to the grave. I'm fortunate to have two friends like that. Anyway, all that to say your write-up is a good reminder of how important friendship is and keeping secrets to ourselves is vital as well. Again, I enjoyed your post. Keep up the great work.

D.Z.

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Jan 13, 2023Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese

lol Candace. An excellent article about the excellent topic of decision making through the filter of relationships. I like how you weigh each member of your board against what you need in the moment and your gardening analogy. Perhaps there still is a place for stranger feedback, but simply weigh it accordingly. I particularly enjoy your observation how everyone is simply projecting their own past upon present circumstances. Something I've found invaluable is the right frame of mind to seek out challenging and difficult feedback firmly grounded in trust and love. While I forget the exact source (maybe it was a bumper sticker), I once read: "Parents give their children both roots and wings."

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Jan 13, 2023Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese

Great essay! This is one of life's little quirks that I appreciate immensely; random conversations, especially personal of nature, can be fun, enlightening, but wrong at the same time. Great idea and hope you put to practice with your journey.

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Jan 13, 2023Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese

This is great Michelle! I'm so glad the Personal Board of Directors framework was useful, and I love how you break it down. I think the totally biased cheerleaders are such an important seat to fill on the board!

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Jan 13, 2023Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese

Watch out NYT Bestsellers...here comes Michelle V!

Lyft drivers have been oh so kind to lend a shoulder to cry on, to offer a two-way vent session. Ride share turns into secret-share lol

I enjoyed learning more about your Board and seeing these lovely photos too :)

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Jan 12, 2023Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese

Love this, Michelle! I spent years the opposite, shying away from speaking to the Candace's of the world. The sweet spot is somewhere in the middle, and it sounds like you've found it! ✨

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Jan 12, 2023Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese

I've been an advocate of a personal board of directors for s while. They are essential in a world where you have to operate as me.inc.

Some are temporary members showing up for short 3-yr positions. Others are members for life.

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Jan 12, 2023Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese

I like the final version, Michelle. Your view surfaces nicely. Great job!

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