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Dec 22, 2022Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese

"I couldn’t tell if my coworkers were trying to convince me I didn’t have a problem or that they didn’t have a problem." The latter haha--that's always what it is.

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Dec 22, 2022Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese

Kudos on your journey Michelle. "10 minutes of awkward conversation beats getting drunk, messing up my sleep and ruining the rest of the weekend for myself." this could be turned into a billboard.

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Dec 23, 2022Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese

I'll never understand why people can't just let others live their lives, especially when they're making changes to help themselves.

"The things people love about me has nothing to do with the amount of drinks I consume, and it never did. " 💙 Thank you for sharing your personal experience with this!

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Dec 23, 2022Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese

I enjoyed reading this article. I appreciate your openness about the difficulties you faced having to explain why you chose to stop drinking. I grew up in a pastor’s house, so I was never around it growing up. However, when I did grow up, I knew I had a choice to make. I chose not to drink at all and have kept it that way to this day. My friends respected my decision. In fact, they ended up liking me more because I offered to be their DD. Who knew I’d be so popular? The fact I don’t charge Uber prices is probably why I’m the chosen DD. Anyway, I commend you for your steadfastness and wish you well in your journey. Like you, I’m in California. If I’m ever in the Bay Area, lemonade is on me. ☺️🍋

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Dec 23, 2022Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese

Another great article Michelle! I definitely resonate with your journey as I went through a 'sober curious ' phase while working on cruise ships, an environment that could arguably be considered a training ground for Alcoholism 101.

I think this topic is a great example of the larger conversation around what setting and upholding boundaries looks like.

I appreciate the contrast between Austin and California to illustrate how strong the effect of prevailing culture is.

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Dec 22, 2022Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese

Great article Michelle, an interesting "how-to" guide to navigate social interactions and alcohol, packed with nice anecdotes and phrases to use 👌👏

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Dec 22, 2022Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese

So well done Michelle. Your essays on quitting are making me sober-curious too. There is such an evocative quality to your writing. 💜

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