I already know and have been working on issues with my ego. I already know I have issues with wanting to feel productive and not feeling valuable when I’m not productive. These feelings have happened even with a full time job!
How do you feel you were able to work on your mindset? Journaling? Therapy? These are the tools I’ve been using.
It's so true Brenna! I half joke that quitting your job doesn't solve your problems, it just forces you to spend more time with them. It also gives you time to work through them too which is nice.
Yes to journaling and therapy! Journaling has been great to track my mindset during the past few years. It's easy to forget I had hard days or ever had any doubt. I also try to observe myself and see where my limiting mindsets can show up. Keeping a note and reflecting on those moments later can help me spot patterns. I also find doing a values quiz is always helpful too. Part of this is remembering what's most important to me.
I'm happy to hear this resonated Raksha, thank you for leaving a comment! I agree, I still struggle with it sometimes (my schedule is not as open but has a lot of flexibility still) and need to remind myself to have some self compassion.
“For me, the hardest part was letting go of my ego. It was stressful but also a process I needed to go through. I didn’t realize how attached I was to my job title and the number of hours I got paid for. Removing those things forced me to reevaluate what was important to me.”
This para in particular spoke so well to the difference between what we tend to gravitate towards (what I want - a pay rise, a promotion) rather than what nourishes us (what I need).
Dec 5, 2022·edited Dec 5, 2022Liked by Michelle Elisabeth Varghese
I love the "up to snuff" hahaha! It's such a great point, this lesson that we aren't defined by work. Therefore the very definition of productivity changes. We don't need to be suffering to be productive. I resonate with that heavy feeling of productivity-lacking guilt. If only the "happiness trumps billable hours" mentality was wide spread wouldn't the world be a better place?
Wow. WOW. I think this is a great roadmap for anyone considering a voluntary or involuntary sabbatical. Your honest journey and realization that paid work is not the only way to define or reward us will bring great value to many.
You're tempting me!
perfect :)
daaaaang what a beauuutiful article
haha thank you so much Bryan!
I already know and have been working on issues with my ego. I already know I have issues with wanting to feel productive and not feeling valuable when I’m not productive. These feelings have happened even with a full time job!
How do you feel you were able to work on your mindset? Journaling? Therapy? These are the tools I’ve been using.
It's so true Brenna! I half joke that quitting your job doesn't solve your problems, it just forces you to spend more time with them. It also gives you time to work through them too which is nice.
Yes to journaling and therapy! Journaling has been great to track my mindset during the past few years. It's easy to forget I had hard days or ever had any doubt. I also try to observe myself and see where my limiting mindsets can show up. Keeping a note and reflecting on those moments later can help me spot patterns. I also find doing a values quiz is always helpful too. Part of this is remembering what's most important to me.
I'm in a similar boat, so I really appreciate your framing. It's so tempting to want to categorize the day into neat little boxes of activity.
I'm happy to hear this resonated Raksha, thank you for leaving a comment! I agree, I still struggle with it sometimes (my schedule is not as open but has a lot of flexibility still) and need to remind myself to have some self compassion.
This makes a lot of sense and is just what I needed. Thank you Michelle!
Thank you for the comment, I'm happy to hear the piece was helpful!
Hi Michelle,
I love you article! This article resonates a lot with my current situation - I'd love to connect and share experiences!
Hi Amelie, thank you for your kind comment! Are you on Twitter? If yes, send me a DM @mvarghoose :) would love to connect!
“For me, the hardest part was letting go of my ego. It was stressful but also a process I needed to go through. I didn’t realize how attached I was to my job title and the number of hours I got paid for. Removing those things forced me to reevaluate what was important to me.”
This para in particular spoke so well to the difference between what we tend to gravitate towards (what I want - a pay rise, a promotion) rather than what nourishes us (what I need).
Thank you, Eric, I'm happy to hear it resonated. It's so easy to let salary and job title distract us from what we actually need and value!
Ahhh relatable content
Thank you 💛
I love the "up to snuff" hahaha! It's such a great point, this lesson that we aren't defined by work. Therefore the very definition of productivity changes. We don't need to be suffering to be productive. I resonate with that heavy feeling of productivity-lacking guilt. If only the "happiness trumps billable hours" mentality was wide spread wouldn't the world be a better place?
Thank you, Sarah and so true! The world would be a much better place for sure.
Wow. WOW. I think this is a great roadmap for anyone considering a voluntary or involuntary sabbatical. Your honest journey and realization that paid work is not the only way to define or reward us will bring great value to many.
Thank you so much Karena! I appreciate your kind words :)